It is recommended to choose to learn some kind of skill that your children seem to love. What is the most important things is that if your children like it or not. By asking your children what they like, parents may able to find if they seem . . .
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The worldlings do not know the way to take real care of of children. They believe in such superficial matters as giving nice food, having children to wear nice clothes and acting at children's will as the proof of love to their children.
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You must start guiding your children as fast as possible. Yet, people without wisdom say that start guiding children earlier may destroy their moral.
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Who is Ekiken Kaibara?
There are killers, sports champions, traitors, people who helpｓ people. Why are there so many differences? Would it because of your parents, school teachers, friends or grand parents? Who knows how would they be affected by the people or atmosphere or simply the breathing air around them, your children. Well, does that something to do with advice to their children, so-called parental advice to their children?
The "Wazoku-doji"(和俗童子） had been written by Ekiken Kaibara in the year 1710, the first systematic theory of education in Japan. He is the author of 養生訓, "Yojokun", "The method to spend healthy life" in 1713, at his age of 83.
"Wazoku-doji" is written under the influence of Confucianism and "Yojokun" is based upon his daily life to act and live as a Samurai. He brought in the importance of mental health with "Yojokun" as well. The basic mental picture is same as "Wazoku-doji", the Confucianism.
Confucianism: It recommends to extend five virtues to build and organize the five Confucian filial-piety relationships, where as;
Five virtue: benevolence, morality, manner, wisdom, faith
Five filial-piety: father and son, sovereign and subject, husband and wife, the old and the young, self and friends
Mr. Kaibara had lived the best period of Tokugawa Shogunate （1600 - 1867) when the the era is called "Edo". The capital of Japan had been Kyoto before Edo era. That's why we call duration of Tokugawa Shogunate as "Edo era". He died in 1714 as this age of 84, that is exceptional long life. And is is amazing to write those books within a few years before his death.
As you see "five virtue and five filial-piety" above, Confucianism had been a kind of backbone for daily life of Samurai. The basic duty of them was the warriors. But as I mentioned above, at the beginning of 18th century when Mr. Kaibara were to die, was the era when citizens had accumulated wealth.
That caused inflation and made Samurai difficult to live with their fixed income linked to the wholesale price of rice from their land that they had been assign to manage. Then it was necessary to remind Samurais how to live and act upon their duty. "Wazoku-Doji" was for children of Samurais and it become popular with wealthy merchants in big cities, later.
The Confucianism had been the basic philosophy of Tokugawa Shogunate till the end of its ruling. While the theory used as the tool of ruling, Confucianism had been separated from Buddhism and had started to walk alone on its way with the help of the Tokugawa Shogunate and it is walking alone still at present.
I have been talking about "Yojokun" starting from April, 2010 till September, 2912. After that, I have switched the subject to parenting advice. Reason is that I have run out of "Yojokun" and have felt necessity to inform young parents the way of raising and educating their child.
As people become affluent, family starts to live separately. Children try to raise their children by themselves. They consider that there are enough information t solve any kind of problem on the net. But the truth is that that is not. You cannot be reactive. Yet, sometime you have to take action ASAP. That's the life. So, unless you are trained or you train yourself to identify the right thing to do at proper occasion, you may lose your child so easy. I do not wish to see that. Yes, I saw my daughter lose a baby. It was not only the sorrow but also the pain for me. Was there a chance to give her any advice? NO, no way. That is the hardest part of your giving proper advice to your children.
So? Let's get going as it has been. If you have any question, you can write me a letter to the below email address. I'll try whatever possible. firstname.lastname@example.org